đ§ Introduction
Just like everyone else, I was constantly on my phone. Doomscrolling. Watching random stuff. Checking things that didnât matter.
One night, I randomly opened up my Screen Time statsâjust to see what it looked like. I mean, I expected it to be bad⌠but not over 7 hours bad.
The worst part? I wasnât doing anything important. I was just scrolling, tapping, watching. And thatâs when it hit meâI wasnât just wasting time. I was literally rewiring how my brain works. How I think. How I operate in my day-to-day life.
Why do we reach for our phones the second weâre bored or alone for two minutes? Whatâs that doing to us?
I decided to do something about it. And since then, Iâve gotten more done, felt more alive, and honestly â I just feel better. Iâm not here as an expert, just someone whoâs tested a bunch of stuff and wants to share what actually worked (and what didnât).
âď¸ It Was Never “Just Checking My Phone”
Every few minutes, I’d pick up my phone to âcheck something real quick.â No big deal, right?
Except it wasnât harmless. It added up.
Most of those pickups were mindless. I wasnât replying to anything urgent or learning anything useful. I was just⌠checking.
And if you’re anything like me, your most-used apps are probably the usual suspects â Instagram, TikTok, YouTube. The irony? We spend hours on âsocialâ media without being social at all.
These micro-distractions become habits. Then routines. Then they shape how your brain works. Suddenly, it feels like you need to check your phoneâeven during a five-minute work break or a quiet moment in an elevator.
It creeps into everything. You check your phone in class. At the gym. While eating. Even while watching a movie.

Your phone becomes a reflex. And those reflexes cost you days, maybe weeks, of time that couldâve gone to things that actually matter. Itâs no longer a tool. Itâs a trigger.
đ§ My Brain Was Wired for Dopamine â Not Focus
So letâs talk about dopamine for a second. No science degree needed.
Dopamine is the âfeel-goodâ chemical your brain releases when you do something enjoyable. Itâs what gives you that hit of pleasure â and also what motivates you to keep doing it again.
Apps are literally designed to give you as much dopamine as possible, as fast as possible. That’s why you end up watching funny dog videos for 30 minutes instead of that educational podcast you said you’d get to.
More dopamine = more pleasure. More pleasure = more motivation to keep scrolling. Itâs a loop â and it’s addictive.

Hereâs what that did to me:
- Constant switching – I couldn’t sit still with one activity. If I got a little bored, I just had to do something else, which usually meant scrolling on Instagram.
- Low patience and attention span – If something didnât hook me in 5 seconds, I was done. Iâd scroll to the next video. Or close the book. Or skip the song.
- Simple things â like painting, walking, or running â felt boring unless I had music or my phone with me. Silence? Forget it. My brain didnât know what to do with quiet anymore.
I couldnât focus on studying. I couldnât enjoy hobbies. I couldnât stay present.
And the scary part? You might not even realize it’s happening.
I only noticed once I tried to read a book and couldnât make it past page three without checking my phone. Thatâs when I knew something had to change.
âIf you donât train your attention, the internet will train it for you.â
đ§Ş Things I Tried (That Totally Failed)
If you’re thinking of cutting down your screen time, you might already have a few ideas in mind.
Let me guess:
- âIâll just set app timers.â
- âIâll delete all my social media.â
- âIâll replace the apps with better ones.â
Yeah. Been there.
Let me tell you why these didnât work for me:
â App Timers
Setting a 30-minute limit sounds smart… until you see that little button pop up: âIgnore Limit.â
And guess what? When youâve had a long day or youâre bored out of your mind, your willpower is low, youâre probably going to tap that button. I did. Every time.
Also, letâs be real â going from 7 hours to 30 minutes is way too steep. Thatâs like asking someone who smokes a pack a day to quit cold turkey. Itâs not sustainable. You have to slowly build up to it.
đď¸ Deleting the Apps
Yup, I tried this too.
But hereâs the problem: itâs so easy to re-download them. And when I didnât, I just opened Instagram or YouTube in my browser. Even in incognito mode.
No custom feed? Doesnât matter. My brain just wanted something to scroll.
đ Replacing with âBetterâ Apps
This oneâs sneaky.
I told myself Iâd delete TikTok and just use LinkedIn or Notion or a productivity app instead.
But thatâs like cleaning your mess with another mess.
I was still wasting time, just in a slightly more âproductive-lookingâ way.
Moral of the story: You canât trick your brain out of an addiction. You need to rewire it.
đ§ What Actually Worked (And Why)
No complicated systems. No fancy hacks. Hereâs what worked for me â and why it worked.
I realized the key wasnât just cutting screen time. It was replacing it with something that actually gave me a reward, something meaningful. Something earned.
Think about it like this: A successful CEO doesnât scroll all day because theyâre getting dopamine from building things. Thatâs their reward.
They donât need TikTok to feel good. Their work is the dopamine.
Thatâs what I needed. Something that felt better than scrolling.
For me, that looked like:
- đď¸ââď¸ Going to the gym
- đĄ Working on my side project
- đŁ Talking to real people â real conversations, not comment sections
These things took effort. But they gave me real rewards.
I felt proud. Accomplished. Energized.
Thatâs the difference.
Social media gives you dopamine for doing nothing. Thatâs dangerous. Because real life doesnât work like that.
đ§ How I Made It Stick
It took me about 7â10 days to really start noticing a change.
Hereâs what helped:
- Let yourself be bored.
Itâs okay. In fact, itâs good. I started thinking more deeply â about life, choices, even future plans. Boredom led to self-awareness. - Write it down.
If your brain starts spiraling when youâre bored, donât fight it. Just write. I kept a journal, even if it was messy. Getting those thoughts out helped clear my head. - Phone-free mornings and nights.
No phone for the first hour of my day and the last hour before bed. That changed everything.
Instead of waking up and doomscrolling, I actually lived in the moment. I made breakfast. I read. I talked to people. I got present.
âł The Results (Way Beyond Time Saved)
The moment I broke that cycle, everything else began to shift.
Here’s what changed for me:
- I started enjoying small moments again â like the way sunlight hit my desk or the walk to class.
- My attention span came back. I could sit through a 3-hour lecture without needing to check my phone.
- Conversations got deeper. More meaningful. I was present.
- I felt less anxious. My thoughts werenât bouncing all over the place.
- I got more done in a week than I used to in a month.
It wasnât just about saving time. It was about mental clarity.
I could think again. I could feel again. I felt like me again.

đŹ What Iâd Tell Others
If you feel glued to your phone, youâre not broken. Youâre not lazy. Youâre just overstimulated.
So was I.
Your brain is overwhelmed with junk dopamine. Itâs not your fault, but it is your responsibility.
You donât need to go cold turkey. You donât need to delete every app.
Just start small.
- One hour of no-phone time per day
- One intentional activity to replace it
- One boundary youâll stick to
These little shifts compound. And the results come fast. Youâll feel better within a week â maybe even less.
Itâs not about deleting your phone. Itâs about using it on your terms.
đ§ Final Thoughts
This is a journey, not a finish line.
Youâll mess up. I still do.
There are days when I pick up my phone out of boredom. Days when I scroll more than I should.
But now I notice it. And thatâs the real win.
I know how it affects me. I know how to stop. And more importantly, I know what I want instead.
So if you’re trying to take your brain back, Iâm with you.
Letâs build a life that feels better than a screen.
PS – If youâre trying to regain your focus too â feel free to send me a message. Iâd love to hear whatâs worked for you.